I only called co-workers for rides when it was snowy, icy, or very cold (now I just ride through the cold).
I had one co-worker (co-worker A) that I relied on most heavily for rides. She only ever gave me rides three or four times, but she lives the closest to me and works about the same schedule as I do. For no inexplicable reason, last Thursday, she said that she couldn’t give me rides any more. I’m not writing this post to complain about her. I don’t fully understand why she made that decision, but she felt it was right. I sucked it up and dealt with it.
Another co-worker (co-worker B) that lives close to me offered to give me rides. Before co-worker A even told me she couldn’t give me a ride I had it lined up that I was going to hitch with co-worker B last Friday. It was very cold (now I’m kicking myself because I’ve already ridden on colder days). All he said was, “All I ask is, don’t keep me waiting.” On Thursdays a buddy crashes at my place. I forgot to tell co-worker B that my buddy was gong to give me a ride. So yeah, at 7:45 he calls me and says, “where are you?”
I kept him waiting.
I apologized profusely as soon as I got to work, but still, I won’t be calling him for a while. I don’t have the audacity. I felt terrible all day Friday.
When I finally made the decision to be car-free I said that I did not want to be a burden to anyone. That was my greatest con. Both Thursday and Friday I felt like I was a burden. At the same time, I knew what I was getting into when I sold my car. I knew that by selling my car in the end I need to rely only on myself to do what I need to do.
Here’s the interesting part. I can’t call either of these people tomorrow and my bike is at work and I am at home.
Every Wednesday some buddies and I go for wings. Buddy A (I figure I might as well stick with the theme) drives right by my work to play basketball before wings. So Buddy A picks me up with the intention of taking me back to work later, so I can ride home. We go for wings. Then we go to a Lost party. Well, I left my gloves and headband in Buddy A’s car thinking I’d be riding home with him. He didn’t realize that Lost was two hours and couldn’t stay for the second hour. So that I could stay for the second hour I had worked out another way back to the office (with Buddy A’s sister coincidentally).
So on the way back to my office to get my bike I realize I don’t have my warming implements of utmost importance to me. I can’t ride in 17 degrees without my gloves and headband. It’s just not happening.
Buddy A’s sister ended up taking me home. Now my struggle for the morning is between walking to work or calling a cab. It’s only 2.5 miles. That’s only a 45 minute walk, and I have some stuff to keep me warm. But cab is faster. I figure a 2.5 mile fare in Harrisburg is probably pretty cheap. Especially when I compare it to all of the money I’m saving by not owning a car.
I just wish my bridges weren’t burned, so I could call co-workers A and B.